Family Divided: Daughter Identifies Herself as Transgender, Heartbreaking Experience of a Medical Mother [True Story
As a doctor, Yalan told her daughter that the gender of the human body is determined by genes and cannot be changed by surgery. "Born in the wrong body" is a great lie. Pictured here is an anti-transgender rally on January 21, 2023 in suburban San Diego County, California.
[Epoch Times, August 11, 2023] (Interviewed by Mingzhu Xue, Epoch Times correspondent in San Francisco, and co-reported by Yifan Yi, features reporter) Chinese immigrant Yalan's daughter, who believes she is male, was not allowed to tell her parents by her school, and has been hiding it for a long time for her. Yalan could never have imagined that such a thing would come to her family. In a recent interview with Epoch Times, Yalan recounted the excruciating pain she experienced.
Yalan is a doctor who immigrated to the United States from China with her husband in the early years. The couple, both Christians, live in the middle of the country and have three children - two sons and a daughter.
The youngest daughter, Mei Hui, was born in the United States in 2004 and is 19 years old. In Yalan's mind, Mei Hui is a very good child, "Her math class progresses about two years faster than other children, she is very hard working, self-disciplined, kind, a very good child. We never worry about anything going wrong with her."
However, Mie suddenly told her parents when she was about to turn 18 that she was transgender and would have to change her sex when she turned 18. Yalan and her husband were dumbfounded, "What a bolt from the blue!" They never knew that their daughter self-identified as transgender.
Later Mie told her parents that when she entered puberty at the age of 12 or 13, her body underwent some changes and she felt uncomfortable. It happened to be a time when her school teacher talked about things like transgenderism and LGBT (the acronym for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender). Mie had questions at the time about whether or not she had this problem as well.
Yalan noticed that Mie didn't talk to her parents much after she started high school. But the couple didn't take it too personally; they thought it was because the child was entering puberty and distancing herself from her parents. Yalan didn't understand until later: when Mei Hui told a teacher at school about her self-identification as transgender, the teacher told her not to tell her parents, "Your parents are Christians, if you tell them, they will not want you, what will you do then?" "You don't tell them, we'll keep it a secret for you."
When she was 16 years old, she publicly admitted that she was a male at school, changed her name, and was called by her teachers and classmates by her new name. Mie originally thought that after coming out (LGBT people refer to the act of disclosing one's gender identity as "coming out") the pressure was released and she would feel better. But her mood didn't get better, it got worse.
Mr. and Mrs. Yalan still didn't know it, but they noticed that Mei Hui began to suffer from severe insomnia and emotional instability, sometimes even cutting herself with a knife. In fact, Mei-Huei was struggling internally because of her sex change, and she dared not communicate normally with her parents. Yalan said, "Because all the people told her not to tell us."
After Yalan sensed her daughter's condition, she began to try to communicate with her, but didn't figure out what was going on with her daughter. Every time Yalan called the school and asked the counselor how the child was doing and if she had observed any problems, the school teacher said, "It's fine, it's fine, she's very good."
Mei Hui's older brother, sister-in-law, and second brother, knew about Mei Hui a long time ago, but they had all been brainwashed by the school, and they all cautioned Mei Hui not to talk to her parents about it. Mei Hui's pediatrician not only hid it for her, but also took the initiative to call the transgender clinic to make an appointment for Mei Hui.
"She even changed her name at school, so her teachers know about her condition, her classmates know about it, maybe their parents know about it, and the community knows about it," says Yalan. Yalan said, "Only my husband and I didn't know."
Yalan said, "Those teachers at the school are horrible, they are the ones who put my child in this situation and turned my child against his parents."
Informed when it was too late
After being kept in the dark for several years, it was in Mie's last year of high school that Yalan first learned the truth about Mie.
In October 2021, Mie was in her fourth year of high school (12th grade) and had a little over half a year to go before she graduated. The school had parent-teacher conferences for the first month of school, and it was only when Mie was worried that her mother's teacher would accidentally slip up when she arrived at school that she told her parents she was transgender and gave her male name.
Although Yalan and Mr. were very shocked, they tried to keep their emotions in check. They asked Mie what her plans were. Mie said that she was going to get a sex change when she turned 18. At that time, there were only 2 months left before she turned 18, and according to the law in the United States, at the age of 18, she was an adult and could do everything on her own. Yalan and her husband were completely confused.
As a doctor, Yalan told her daughter that the human body's gender is determined by genes and cannot be changed by surgery or any other means. This so-called transgender care is very harmful to a healthy human body. A doctor's duty should be to save lives, but nowadays doctors are mutilating the healthy bodies of teenagers with drugs and surgeries, which is absolutely unethical behavior and the wrong thing to do.
But Mi-Huei doesn't listen at all, and she believes that she was born in the wrong body. Yalan said that her body had been healthy since she was a child and that there was nothing wrong with it, and that it was her mind that was the problem. Mie then said, "My mind is like that, so I'm going to change my body."
Yalan had no way to convince her daughter. "We came from mainland China and have experienced a lot, but it was never expected that something like this would happen to our family."
"It feels like taking on the world."
To help her daughter from being transgender, Yalan sought help everywhere, but found it much harder.
"All the people pushing for her to be transgender, all the people supporting her to be transgender," she said. Yalan said, "We looked everywhere for help, the church, friends around us, and we couldn't find any help. No one helped us, everyone was supportive of being transgender, and all the parents of the kids we grew up with were silent." One parent even came to them and said, "Your child can do whatever she wants, she's happy, you should support her.
Yalan and her husband tried hard to find an honest counselor to counsel their daughter to see if she had any mental illnesses, but they couldn't find any. Yalan said that the American Psychological Association, the American Academy of Pediatrics, and the American Medical Association all support and affirm transgenderism. "All the medical associations are like this, as long as you say you have gender anxiety, these organizations are affirming your gender identity, pushing you hard, forcing you to take medication and undergo surgery to change your sex," she said.
Yalan said that not only are the medical and education sectors infiltrated and gagged, but even the whole society is controlled on the issue of transgenderism, even the churches are no exception. Many churches now have rainbow flags (flags symbolizing the LGBT community) hanging in front of their doors. Yalan has tried to seek help from the church, but in the few churches near her home, no one dares to speak about it, and even the pastor is silent.
"My husband and I felt like we were up against the world, with no power at all. There is pressure from all sides, and all the people are against you. We were desperate."
"We were left on our own in the dark with no one to talk to." The baby would have turned 18 in two months, but I couldn't do anything, there was nothing I could do," Yalan said. All the people were pushing her (to change her sex), and she had grown so big that I couldn't force her. There was really nothing we could do but ask God."
After Mi-Huei confessed to her parents, her mental condition worsened, and her insomnia at night became worse, so that she could not go to school for many days. Because she missed so many classes, Mie almost didn't graduate. In May 2022, Mie left home after graduating from high school.
Yalan and her husband used to be proud of their family. "My husband and I were most proud of our family, and all of our efforts were for this family. We really love our children and really do the best we can to give them the best environment possible." Yalan said, "But our family is completely divided by this incident."
"America is going through a 'Cultural Revolution'."
Yalan deplores the fact that even though Mei Hui suffered from severe mental distress, she excelled in all her classes until her third year of high school, earning A's in every subject, and that such an outstanding child was persecuted to such an extent - not being able to rest, not being able to sleep, wanting to self-harm, committing suicide, and almost not being able to graduate, and her parents had no way of understanding her, so why is it that this is happening?
Yalan and her husband experienced the Cultural Revolution in China, and she believes that what is happening in the U.S. is very similar to the Cultural Revolution in China. "These kids are like the Red Guards, they want to destroy traditional culture, break up the family, and break with their parents, almost the same as the Cultural Revolution".
"LGBT has turned into a so-called belief for the children, just like communism, which on the surface seems to be pursuing equality, tolerance and progress, but in fact wants everyone to become LGBT," Yalan said.
Yalan believes that there is a force behind the transgender movement that seeks to gain power by promoting transgenderism, which it uses to control all of these people. This force destroys the most important foundations of society - family, ethics and morality. It's like the Cultural Revolution of the Communist Party of China, the so-called "breaking up the old and establishing the four new," which broke up all the traditional concepts, the family, and the order. These things are now happening in the United States.
"Who doesn't know that gender is male and female?" Yalan said, "Now to get all people to recognize that gender is not just male and female, but there are dozens of other kinds, which in itself is brainwashing, a political campaign to get all people to lie. It's scary, exactly like the Communists."
"The feeling my husband and I had was that we were up against the world and had no power at all. There's pressure on all sides, all the people are against you. We were desperate."
"There's going to be retribution, and all of us are going to have to pay a very heavy price for this."
After Mie confessed to her parents, her mental condition worsened and her insomnia at night became so severe that she was unable to attend school for many days. Because she missed so many classes, Mie almost didn't graduate. Yalan and her husband used to be proud of their family. "My husband and I are most proud of our family and all our efforts are for this family. We really love our children and really do the best we can to give them the best environment." Yalan said, "But our family is completely divided by this incident."
"America is going through a 'Cultural Revolution'."
Yalan deplores the fact that even though Mei Hui suffered from severe mental distress, she excelled in all her classes until her third year of high school, earning A's in every subject, and that such an outstanding child was persecuted to such an extent - not being able to rest, not being able to sleep, wanting to self-harm, committing suicide, and almost not being able to graduate, and her parents had no way of understanding her, so why is it that this is happening?
Yalan and her husband experienced the Cultural Revolution in China, and she believes that what is happening in the U.S. is very similar to the Cultural Revolution in China....
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