Family Divided: A Daughter Identifies as Transgender and the Heartbreaking Experience of a Medical Mother [True Story

As a doctor, Yalan told her daughter that the gender of the human body is determined by genes and cannot be changed by surgery. "Being born in the wrong body" is a great lie. Pictured here is an anti-transgender rally on January 21, 2023 in suburban San Diego County, California.

[Epoch Times, August 11, 2023] (Interviewed by Mingzhu Xue, Epoch Times correspondent in San Francisco, and co-reported by Yifan Yi, features reporter) Chinese immigrant Yalan's daughter, who believes she is male, was not allowed to tell her parents by her school and has been hiding it for a long time for her. Yalan could never have imagined that such a thing would come to her family. In a recent interview with Epoch Times, Yalan recounted the excruciating pain she experienced.

Yalan is a physician who immigrated to the United States from China with her husband. They are both Christians living in the middle of the United States and have three children -- two sons and a daughter.

The youngest daughter, Mei Hui, was born in the United States in 2004 and is 19 years old. In Yalan's mind, Mei-Huei is a very good child, "She is about two years ahead of the other kids in her math class, she is very hard working, self-disciplined, kind, and a very good kid. We never worry about anything going wrong with her."

However, Mie suddenly told her parents when she was about to turn 18 that she was transgender and would have to change her sex when she turned 18. Yalan and her husband were confused, "What a bolt from the blue!" They never knew that their daughter self-identified as transgender.

Later Mie told her parents that when she entered puberty at the age of 12 or 13, her body underwent some changes and she felt uncomfortable. It happened to be a time when her school teacher talked about things like transgenderism and LGBT (the acronym for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender). Mie had questions at the time about whether or not she had this problem as well.

Yalan noticed that Mei Hui didn't talk to her parents much after she started high school. But the couple didn't take it too personally; they thought it was because the child was entering puberty and distancing herself from her parents. Yalan didn't understand until later: Mei Hui told her school teacher about her self-identification as a transgender person, and the teacher told her not to tell her parents, "Your parents are Christians, and if you tell them, they won't want you, so what will you do then?" "You don't tell them, we'll keep it a secret for you."

When Mie was 16 years old, she openly admitted that she was male at school, changed her name, and was called by her new name by her teachers and classmates at school. Mie originally thought that after coming out (LGBT people refer to the act of disclosing one's gender identity as "coming out") the pressure was released and she would feel better. But her mood didn't get better, it got worse.

Mr. and Mrs. Yalan still didn't know it, but they found that Mei Hui began to suffer from severe insomnia and emotional instability, and sometimes even cut herself with a knife. In fact, Mei Hui was struggling internally because of her sex change, and she dared not communicate normally with her parents. Yalan said, "Because all the people told her not to tell us."

After Yalan sensed her daughter's condition, she began to think of ways to communicate with her, but did not figure out what was going on with her daughter. Every time Yalan called the school and asked the counselor how her child was doing and if she had observed any problems, the school teacher said, "Nothing, nothing, she's very good."

Mi-hae's older brother, sister-in-law, and second brother have known about Mi-hae for a long time, but they have all been brainwashed by the school and have warned Mi-hae not to tell her parents about this. Mi-hae's pediatrician not only hides it for her, but also takes the initiative to call the transgender clinic to make an appointment for Mi-hae.

"Mie even changed her name at school, the teachers know about Mie's condition, the students around her know about it, probably their parents know about it, and the community knows about it." Yalan said, "Only my husband and I don't know."

Yalan stated, "Those teachers at the school are horrible, they're the ones who put my kids in this situation and turned them against their parents."

Knowing is too late.

After being kept in the dark for several years, it was only in Mie's last year of high school that Yalan first learned the truth about Mie.

In October 2021, Mie is in her fourth year of high school (12th grade) and will graduate in just over six months. The school has a parent-teacher conference for the first month of school, and Mie is worried that the teacher will accidentally slip up when her mother arrives at school, before telling her parents that she is transgender and giving her male name.

Though Yalan and Mr. are very shocked, they try to control their emotions. They asked Mie what her plans were. Mi-Hui said that she was going to have a sex change when she turned 18. At that time, there were only 2 months left before she turned 18, and according to the law in the United States, at the age of 18, she was an adult and could do everything on her own. Yalan and her husband were completely confused.

As a doctor, Yalan told her daughter that the human body's gender is determined by genes, and it can't be changed by surgery, not by any means. This so-called transgender care is very harmful to the healthy human body. A doctor's duty should be to save lives, but nowadays doctors are mutilating the healthy bodies of teenagers with drugs and surgeries, which is absolutely unethical behavior and the wrong thing to do.

But Mi-Huei doesn't listen at all and believes that she was born in the wrong body. Yalan said that her body had been healthy since she was a child and there was nothing wrong with it, it was her mind that was wrong. Mie then said, "My mind is like that, so I'm going to change my body."

Yalan had no way of convincing her daughter. "We came from mainland China and have experienced a lot, but it was never expected that something like this would happen to our family."

"It feels like I'm taking on the world."

In order to help her daughter from being transgender, Yalan seeks help everywhere, but finds it much more difficult.

"All of them pushed hard for her to be transgender, all of them were supportive of her being transgender." We looked everywhere for help, the church, friends around us, but we couldn't find any help," Yalan said. No one helped us, everyone was supportive of being transgender, and all the parents of the kids we grew up with were silent." One parent even came to them and said, "Your child can do whatever she wants, she's happy, you should support her.

Yalan and her husband tried hard to find an honest counselor to counsel their daughter to see if she had any mental illness, but they couldn't find several. Yalan said that the American Psychological Association, the American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Medical Association and other organizations all support and affirm transgenderism. "All the medical associations are like this, as long as you say you have gender anxiety, these organizations are affirming your gender identity, pushing you hard, forcing you to take medication and undergo surgery to change your sex," she said.

Yalan said that not only the medical and educational communities have been infiltrated and gagged, but even the whole society has been controlled on the issue of transgenderism, even the churches. Many churches now have rainbow flags (flags symbolizing the LGBT community) hanging in front of their doors. Yalan has tried to seek help from the church, but in the few churches near her home, no one dares to speak about it, and even the pastor is silent.

"My husband and I felt like we were up against the world and had no power at all. There's pressure on all sides, all the people are against you. We were desperate."

"We were left on our own in the dark with no one to talk to." Yalan said, "At that time, the child would have turned 18 in 2 months, but I couldn't do anything, there was nothing I could do. All the people were pushing her (to change her sex), and she had grown so big that I couldn't force her. There was really nothing we could do but ask God."

After Mie confessed to her parents, her mental condition worsened and her insomnia at night became so severe that she was unable to attend school for many days. Because she missed so much school, Mie almost didn't graduate. In May 2022, Mie ran away from home after graduating from high school.

Yalan and her husband used to be proud of their family. "My husband and I are most proud of our family, and all our efforts are for this family. We really loved our children and really did the best we could to give them the best environment we could." Yalan said, "But our family is completely divided by this incident."

"America is going through the Cultural Revolution."

Yalan deplores the fact that even though Mihui suffered from severe mental distress, she excelled in all her subjects until her third year of high school, receiving A's in every subject. such a brilliant child, yet she was persecuted to such an extent--no rest, no sleep, wanting to self-harm, committing suicide, and almost failing to graduate, and her parents had no way of understanding her, so why is this happening?

Yalan and her husband experienced the Cultural Revolution in China, and she believes that what is happening in the United States is very similar to the Cultural Revolution in China. "These kids are like the Red Guards, trying to destroy traditional culture, break up the family, and break with their parents, which is almost the same as the Cultural Revolution," she said.

"LGBT has become a so-called belief for kids, like communism, which on the surface seems to be about pursuing equality, tolerance, and progress, but in reality it's about everyone becoming LGBT," Yalan said.

Yalan believes that there is a force behind the transgender movement that seeks to gain power through the promotion of transgenderism and use it to control all these people. This force destroys the most important foundations of society - the family, ethics and morality. It's like the Cultural Revolution of the Communist Party of China, the so-called "breaking up the old and establishing the four new," which broke up all the traditional concepts, the family, and the order. These things are now happening in the United States.

"Who doesn't know that gender is male and female?" Yalan said, "Now to make all people recognize that gender is not just male and female, there are dozens of them, and that in itself is brainwashing, a political campaign to make all people lie. It's scary, exactly like the Communists."

"My husband and I felt like we were up against the world and had no power at all. There's pressure on all sides, all the people are against you. We were desperate."

"There will be retribution in the future, and all will have to pay a very heavy price for it."

After Mie confessed to her parents, her mental condition worsened and her insomnia at night became so severe that she was unable to attend school for many days. Because she missed so many classes, Mie almost didn't graduate. Yalan and her husband used to be proud of their family. "My husband and I are most proud of our family and all our efforts are for this family. We really love our children and really do the best we can to give them the best environment." Yalan said, "But our family is completely divided by this incident."

"America is going through the Cultural Revolution."

Yalan deplores the fact that even though Mihui suffered from severe mental distress, she excelled in all her subjects until her third year of high school, receiving A's in every subject. such a brilliant child, yet she was persecuted to such an extent--no rest, no sleep, wanting to self-harm, committing suicide, and almost failing to graduate, and her parents had no way of understanding her, so why is this happening?

Yalan and her husband experienced the Cultural Revolution in China, and she believes that what is happening in the United States is very similar to the Cultural Revolution in China. "These kids are like the Red Guards, trying to destroy traditional culture, break up the family, and break with their parents, almost like the Cultural Revolution.