在生日派對上堅定身份：一位雙性戀者的自我發現之旅

At a birthday party filled with laughter and celebration, I encountered a moment that would change the course of my life forever. "You know better than that," a friend I had just met said to me. Those words are etched in my memory as if they were frozen in time.

當時，我被介紹給一位共同的朋友，我們開始了普通的聚會閒聊。當他問及我的感情狀況，我坦白說我沒有男朋友，但我有一位女朋友。他的反應是震驚，隨之而來的是一連串對於雙性戀者來說再熟悉不過的問題和偏見。

但這次，我不再是那個對自己的性取向感到困惑的人。經過多年的自我探索，我已經確定了自己的身份——一個自信的雙性戀者。我不會因為一個陌生人的無知而感到自我懷疑。

我堅定地回應了他的質疑，指出他對於LGBTQ+社群的誤解，特別是對於雙性戀者的刻板印象。我告訴他，雙性戀並不是一個過渡期或者是隱藏同性戀身份的掩飾。我們是真實存在的，並且應該被平等對待和尊重。

This conversation not only changed his perspective, but also inspired me. He suggested that I should share my thoughts and experiences to help more people understand the real lives of bisexuals. It was a suggestion I had never considered before, but I decided to take the challenge.

A few weeks later, I published my first article on the experience of living as a bisexual. After the article was published, I received invitations from editors all over the country to write more articles on bisexual issues. I wrote an article about 10 common questions bisexuals hear, responding to these biased queries with humor and honesty.

Over time, I have been breaking down stereotypes of bisexuals through articles and interviews. I have received feedback from bisexuals and supporters from all over the world who have shared their stories and expressed their gratitude to me.

All this experience inspired me to create a column, Ask Dad, where I answer questions from readers on everything from coming out confusion to the challenges of dealing with a bisexual relationship. The column has become a platform to support and inspire those seeking help.

I hope that my experiences and efforts will create a more open and inclusive world for bisexuals. I encourage everyone who is bisexual, no matter what your talent is, to use it to change the world's perception of bisexuals for the better.

One of the most important lessons I've learned on this journey is that when you are brave enough to stand up and speak out with your own voice, you can not only change people's perceptions, but you can also provide strength and hope to those who are still searching for their identity.

Lewis Oakley is a bisexual columnist, father and author living in the UK. His forthcoming book, Bisexual Basics: A Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond, will be released this May. Follow Lewis on social media @lewyoaks and work together to create a better world.

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