Joseph Tito's Struggle: From Jets 2B to Fatherhood

Becoming a parent is a challenging and unexpected path for many people in today's society, especially for gay, single men like me. My story may offer a glimmer of hope and courage to those who have encountered obstacles in their quest to become parents.

Joseph Tito's book, From Jet Secondhand to Father, is not only a chronicle of his personal journey to fatherhood, but also a reflection of current societal attitudes and laws regarding same-sex parenthood. In this book, Tito shares his journey to fatherhood through surrogacy in Kenya and the challenges he encountered along the way.

Tito's story begins when he has almost completed all the preparations for the arrival of his new baby. However, just ten days before he was due to leave the hospital, he received a shocking email informing him that in order to take his baby out of the hospital, he would need to be accompanied by a female companion - and that companion would have to be his "wife". This was a huge blow to Tito, who had chosen Kenya precisely because it was supposed to be gay-parent and single-male friendly.

The request is not only unbelievable, but also deeply insulting. Tito had spent his entire life trying to be seen and accepted for who he really was, and now he was forced to hide his true identity just to be a father. The experience left him feeling angry and disappointed, and more importantly, deeply betrayed.

Faced with this situation, Tito felt cornered. If he doesn't go along with this ridiculous request, he won't be able to get his children back. But he was absolutely unwilling to pay a stranger to play the role of his "wife". This puts him in a dilemma.

Tito's story epitomizes the reality faced by many gay and lesbian parents. In their quest to become parents, they face not only biological limitations, but also social and legal obstacles. But Tito's story also gives us hope that it is possible to find one's own path through perseverance and courage, even in the face of many obstacles.

In this story, we see the prejudice and injustice against gay and lesbian parents, as well as individuals' perseverance in love and family. Tito's experience reminds us that the road to parenthood is full of challenges, but love and perseverance can help us overcome them and find our own happiness.

I share this story not only to let more people understand the plight faced by gay parents, but also to inspire those who encounter difficulties in their quest to become parents, not to give up hope and to persevere in their dreams. Because in the face of love, nothing is impossible.