探索同性戀身份和關係的復雜性：艾米專欄精選回答

In today's society, the journey to find love and understanding can be a challenging one for many, especially for those whose sexual orientation or gender identity is slightly different from the mainstream. Recently, we received a letter from one of our readers, Bi Qiqi, whose experience and confusion touched our heartstrings and made us realize that in this diverse world, the journey to find true love sometimes requires more courage and wisdom.

畢好奇是一位58歲的同性戀者，他在成年後的大部分時間裡認定自己是雙性戀。他曾與女性和男性都建立了重要的關係。然而，15年前，在他上一次戀愛之後，他變得無法相處，基本上是無性戀，除了幾次隨機的與男人的勾搭。現在，畢好奇感到他想要另一段重要的關係，並且他覺得這段關係需要和一個男人在一起。

畢好奇面臨的「問題」是，在公眾眼中，他不算是同性戀。女人總是對他感興趣，但男人似乎沒有意識到他有空或可能感興趣。這讓他在結識潛在伴侶的同時，感到困惑和無助。

Against this background, we offer a few suggestions to Picchi. First, since he is interested in a serious relationship with a man, he should make every effort to get involved with any local organizations where he might meet other gay men. Additionally, online apps and "matchmaking" sites such as OkCupid, EHarmony, Silversingles, and Match.com offer LGBTQ matchmaking opportunities, which are great ways to find a partner.

According to a study released in 2023 by the Pew Research Center, LGB adults are more likely than heterosexual adults to report having used a dating website or app. This suggests that for people like Picchi, the online dating experience can be a highly effective way to learn and find a partner.

In this diverse and ever-changing world, everyone should have the opportunity to find their own love and happiness. Pikki's story reminds us that regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, the search for love requires courage, an open mind and continuous effort. We hope that Bichai will find his other half and that we can all give him the greatest support and understanding in this journey.