Questioning and Erasing Bisexuals: insights from Natalie Schriver

In today's society, bisexuals often face a phenomenon known as "double erasure" not only from the heterosexual community, but also from within the LGBTQ+ community. In her article, Natalie Schriefer cites the constant questioning of bisexuals as one of the consequences of bisexual erasure. This skepticism often stems from misconceptions and stereotypes of bisexual identity.

In the 2024 Netflix special Have It All, stand-up comedian Taylor Tomlinson comes out as bisexual. Her experience highlights the challenges faced by bisexual people, especially when it comes to being open about their sexuality, often in the face of questions and demands from others to "prove" their bisexuality. This experience is not only disturbing, but also reflects the misunderstanding and prejudice against bisexuals in the community.

Bisexual erasure is a complex phenomenon that stems from a simplified and dichotomous view of sexual orientation. When a bisexual person dates someone of the opposite sex, they may be perceived as heterosexual; when they date someone of the same sex, they may be perceived as homosexual. This assumption, based on the gender of the current partner, ignores the true identity of bisexuals and makes them feel ostracized in both heterosexual and cool groups.

Tomlinson's experience and Schriever's analysis remind us that bisexuals are diverse and rich in their identities, and that they should not be forced to choose a side or justify their sexual orientation. Bisexuals should be allowed to self-identify and not be forced to conform to outside expectations and assumptions about their sexual orientation.

As more and more bisexuals are bravely opening up about their identities, society's awareness and acceptance of bisexuality is gradually increasing. However, more education and dialogues are needed to eliminate prejudice and double erasure against bisexuals. By sharing and discussing the real-life experiences of bisexuals, we can help break down stereotypes and promote a deeper and more comprehensive understanding of bisexual identity.

Everyone has a role to play in this process, whether it is through supporting our bisexual friends or participating in and promoting public discussion on the issue of bisexuality. Only when we learn to accept and respect everyone's sexual diversity can we truly realize an inclusive and equal society.